How affection heals.

When I am working with people in person, I will often start our session by holding their two hands in mine.
 
We’ll sit that way, sometimes for a while.
 
What I find is that the whole person comes forward, when you touch them. For me, in that moment of touch, the whole Soul is understood.
 
This happens in other ways too: I also find it happens in the voice, in the vision, and simply by holding that person in meditation.
 
But there is something about touch that is so immediate, such a clear read.
 
When you hold someone’s hand, and by this I mean anyone’s hand, not just someone you love… you feel what the other person feels. You connect not just in the warm, fuzzy, human way that we love, but you also connect at a Soul level.
 
What happens is that there is this rush of comfort, of relaxation, of fondness, of safety, of love… and this heals us.
 
It heals the person who is holding the hand.
It heals the person whose hand is being held.
 
Upgrade from a handhold into a bona fide hug, and you have some serious healing going on!
 
Consider as you’re going around your day, how much you touch people, and how much you allow touch.
 
In western culture, we’re often pretty reserved, and we only allow affection for lovers, or children.
 
But the simple shoulder pat, the side hug, the arm reaching out to pat the forearm?  All of these heal.
 
Not just the person getting the affection, but also the person giving it.