There’s a fine line between living in the land of our dreams, where we are actively creating and manifesting our reality, and living in fantasy land, where we are hiding from the real world.
The way to tell the difference, is to notice what actions you are taking.
If you have a deep longing to be an artist, for example, it is a beautiful thing to dream and imagine the art you will create. However, the actions are what separate the artist from the non artist: you must draw or paint or photograph or whatever is your medium, and this must be the primary activity of your life, once you have finished with your responsibilities for keeping yourself and your family sheltered and fed.
If you’re not doing art, but just thinking about art… you’re living in fantasy.
The only way you can get to your dream is through action: even if you’re not good at art yet, even if what you put on the paper does not match what is in your mind.
Over time, with daily practice, with teachers and workshops, you will get better. This might take years, but it will happen.
This is why the journey to our dreams is a journey; we do not gain the experience we need from only dreaming and imagining and fantasizing about something.
We need to take active steps, in order to get there.
When we are attracted to someone, but they don’t love us back, or, it can be heartbreaking.
What’s important to keep sight of, is your own value.
So often we think if we just try harder, or are more available, or love better, or look nicer or whatever it is, that the object of our affection will suddenly look up and notice us with new eyes. Unfortunately, this isn’t true, and when we’re in this smitten, infatuated, love blind state, we can’t always see it.
When someone loves you and wants to be with you, if he or she is available, he or she will make it very clear. There isn’t any guessing, or wondering, or analyzing every move. There isn't any danger or drama or uncertainty.
There will be direct attraction, direct connection, and a very clear moving forward.
If you’re infatuated with someone, and you’re not seeing this type of movement, either that person is unavailable, or not interested in you.
This doesn’t mean you should try harder, or change even one little hair on your head.
Just accept that this person is not your soul mate, and move on. Your soul mate will be absolutely clear with his/her availability, desire and intention.
Wait for this.
If you are interested in having tantric experiences, or in having transcendent intimacy, you don’t need a lot of partners, or a new partner.
This is not to say you can’t have different partners; that's up to you, and is determined by your stage of life, your commitment to others, and by your own particular understanding of love at this time.
However, in order to expand yourself sexual self, all you need to do is to become fully present with one person.
The thing is; it’s very difficult to become fully present with another person.
It’s about real, raw intimacy: where you show up without your mask, without your cool, without your reputation as player or lover or whatever it is.
You show up, and you don’t just take off your clothes. You take off your skin.
In this way, true sexual intimacy is a profound spiritual experience: you will find that time exists differently, energy shifts in a new way, when you open yourself to another and the other opens to you in this profound, deep, real way.
If you seek transcendence in sex, try showing up fully as yourself, no barriers, no walls, no resistance, just you.
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