We have lots of choices about how we spend our time.
Some of us like to be social.
Some of us like to be out and about.
Some of us like to work.
Some of us like to be relaxed.
For me, I like to spend time on my work and my family, and what I’ve come to understand is that when you’re really committed to something, there isn’t a lot of room for much else.
Thus, I glean time: I actively gather and select and choose those commitments that hold personal value to me, from the larger crop of what’s available.
I don’t do “shoulds” any more.
I don’t do peer pressure.
I know what I hold as valuable.
I gather that.
I glean time, so that I can put my attention on what’s most important to me.
Of course, we aren’t always in a passage of our life where this can happen immediately. During the years I had four kids at home and several jobs, I had to do a lot of things I didn’t like, all the time.
At first, I just ran on overwhelm and adrenaline.
But later, as choices came up, I started to make them. After being overwhelmed by the schedule of competitive soccer and basketball with two older kids, I said no to competitive sports for the two younger ones. After being drained by the pressure to be on every volunteer committee at school and church, I resigned from all committees. After being exhausted by a city job that required a two-hour commute each day, I took a less glamorous job close to home. And so on.
I made choices.
I pared down.
I said no.
I gleaned out every single minute that was available to me, and pretty soon this gleaning gained momentum, and soon it came to pass that I was no longer a busy person: I wasn’t on the teams, I wasn’t on the committees, I didn’t work in the city.
And with each “no,” with each boundary, with each gleaning of what I wanted vs. what I was “supposed” to do, I became happier and more clear about my true purpose in this life.
In those years, it was a foreign language to say “no.”
Now, I say it all the time!
I have gotten so clear on the value of downtime as the key to creativity, to spaciousness as a gateway to joy, to the understanding that it is much more important to notice and expand, then to go hurtling through this amazing life.
Try it. Say “no.” Glean some time for yourself, and see what happens.
You’ve probably heard the saying “familiarity breeds contempt”?
Yet in the tiny Oregon town where I live, I’ve found that familiarity breeds respect.
It’s not about homogeneity or cultural sameness, either. The people here don’t get along because they’re similar to each other.
In fact, they’re not similar at all.
Race, religion, background, belief—whoa! It’s all a very big mix in this farming/college community an hour south of Portland.
But because every one knows each other in a familiar, day-to-day way—as neighbors, workers, families—everyone gives each other a lot of leeway.
We give each other space.
At the town pub, our diversity shines out.
The pub is trendy, because we’re a commuter town to Portland, and all that Tumblr rubs off. The pub serves trendy things like micro brews and cherry ketchup and hemp burgers, and the waiters wear hipster clothes: vests and watch chains and long curling waxed mustaches.
It’s hip, it’s happening, a gathering place!
So here we all are, bringing our great diversity, all our differences…
We mix it up. We give each other space. We pass the cherry ketchup.
And we blend and mingle and create a vibration that’s so much more interesting than homogenized sameness.
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Sometimes people come to me and ask why it is that they can’t do a specific skill, such as see a vision in mediation.
When I ask about their lifestyle, I often find that these are incredibly busy people.
And so I tell them to relax more, to clear their life of overscheduling, to slow down and listen to the still and small.
Yet more often than not, they find it very hard to do this, or they’re resistant to doing this.
They don’t get how relaxing more will help them: how slowing down will help them speed up their spiritual expansion.
They are so accustomed to go-go-go.
They are so accustomed to do-do-do.
They are so accustomed to think-think-think.
Now, go-do-think are okay if you’re trying to tread water in a linear world.
But if you long to enter the depths of the Mystery, these linear, left-brain, rational approaches don’t work.
It’s like trying to use a chainsaw to peel an orange.
If you’re waiting for God, you have to wait in a relaxed state. You have to relax, have downtime, slow down, get quiet, get still.
God can’t reach you if you’re too busy, or too loud or too noisy in your own head.
You’ll miss all the sweet and subtle signs.
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