We sometimes wonder if it is possible to really, truly change.
We get to a point in our life, where we look back at who we have been, and we see who we are now, and it seems like we haven't changed that much.
We think we're still who we used to be.
Except we're not.
And of course, the outer changes don't matter: how we look, what we do, who we're with, what we're involved with. It's easy to change those things.
It's the inner self that we're asked to pay attention to.
That's where we find the only change that matters.
We might notice, over time, that our body has changed.
But what we really need to notice, is how we have become more compassionate.
We might notice, over time, that we have changed our relationships.
But what we really need to notice, is how we are releasing our need to control.
When we try to change by controlling, doing, starting, stopping... that's just surface change.
When we let go of control—when we just sail along in this river of flow and let the Universe guide us—this is where we really start to change.
And when we really start to find the person we were meant to be.
We spend a lot of time being afraid of stuff.
Being afraid of what might happen.
Being afraid of what might not happen.
And sometimes we get so caught up in our worry and our fear, we forget that we are here to live.
The way we let our mind loop--the way we manage our thoughts—is our responsibility.
No one else can be in charge of this.
We have to do it ourselves.
And the thing is... we can.
If you have been stuck in obsessive thought loops of fear and worry—of what we often call anxiety in this modern age—know that the thoughts are real, because they are the way you are experiencing anxiety.
And yet also know, that you have the power to shift out of that obsessive loop—to truly shift to a different dimension, so that you will no longer be in that reality.
Psychology tells us it takes a long time to change. But in reality, when we work from our soul, change is easy and instantaneous.
We sometimes think that being "spiritual" means we have to say "yes" to everyone.
That it's our job as lightworkers to continually move our own needs aside so that we can help and heal everyone. Except, that's not what we're here for.
Empathic burnout is a very real thing.
Sensitive people—intuitives, seekers, healers, introvert—are often taken advantage of by those who are less sensitive.
The thing is, this isn't just the fault of the extrovert or bully or crazymaker.
The problem is shared by the person allowing the behavior.
We're all meant to have boundaries: physical, verbal, emotional, spiritual. As a spiritual person, as a helper and healer and lightworker, having boundaries is a part of your soul growth.
You don't have to say "yes" to everyone.
In fact, saying "no" may be exactly the next step you need to take.
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