I've received a lot of emails and feedback on my last blog, "Family, tribe and the Equinox"—so much so, that I'd like to take time to address some issues that are popping up for folks right now—not only around family, but around multiple aspects of our lives right now
If you'll recall, the great Shift of 2012, which we experienced starting about summer of last year and culminating in a great big Letting Go of Old Stuff at the end of the year (like it or not), set us on a new path.
2013 entered with hope and grace, and many of you experienced feelings of joy, awakening, rebirth... all that we'd expected from this grand shift.
However... we are being asked once again, right now, to take a look at things that we had set up earlier in 2012, that are still ongoing, that do not serve us.
This might be family and relationship—for many of you, this is where the hammer is going to hit the nail, soundly on the head. Take a look at your family, your relationships, and ask yourself: "Is this serving me?". Not serving the small me, of ego/personality/fear. But the big me, which is your soul essences.
Is this serving me? If you are in a relationship filled with toxicity, blame, fear—and certainly, if you are in a relationship that is abusive in any way—it's time to Let Go, and Say No.
If your current challenge aren't in family relationships, but are around other relationships, such as business, career, groups, associations, friendships and other relationships such as these, the question is the same: "Is this serving me?"
Not the ego you. Not the you that has goals and ambitions and so forth.
You as soul.
Now... when we ask this question, "is this serving me," the key is to be very clear on your answer. For about 80% of you right now, with the energy as it is, I'd guess the answer is going to be.... NO.
No, this relationship is not serving me.
No, this association is not serving me.
No, this friendship is not serving me.
And when you know this clearly... and you will know it resoundingly, in your heart and soul and gut, the idea is to Let Go and Say No... and... wait for it... :) To do this WITHOUT FAULT OR BLAME.
To let go of relationships that are not serving you, and to do so without creating anger, a need to find fault, a need to pin blame.
To just understand that CHANGE is the WAY of the Universe... and that sometimes, we grow out of things when we least expect it...or others grow out of us... or whatever it is.
No anger. No fault. No blame. Simply holding boundary, and releasing in compassion.
Take a look today, at what is bothering you,. what is stressing you, what is in conflict. And then, meditate on whether the above applies...
I welcome your comments, as always.
I don't use the word "tribe" very much in my work. To me, it seems that the word family speaks of the soul cluster we're born into: the one we've been with since childhood. Family is where we work out our karma from distant past and through the generations.
Tribe is what we choose: it's the new family, the true family we seek to create, with people who we share aligned values and understanding with.
But sometimes, if haven't truly worked out our family stuff, tribe is just a false projection: a group we call "us" even though that's not really "us." We're only part of it, or we only fit in that group for a while.
Eventually, we group out of all family, and all tribe, and simply become our selves.
On the plane back from California, I sat by a woman wearing Oregon Ducks gear from head to toe. Her first statement to me was "Are you a Ducks or Beavers fan?" to which I mumbled, "Neither."
When we over align with family, when we over align with tribe, we miss the true aspect of who we are, which is our self as Divine being in earth body. We are each unique, yet even more so, we are soul.
It's a whole different way of looking at who you are, and why you're here.
As Spring Equinox arrives, with its bobbing daffodils and sporadic rains (at least here in Oregon), you are probably working on:
• Family secrets
• Ancesteral kamra
• Inherited traits
• Separating from birth family (regardless of age)
• Discovering your true self
• Rediscovering your true self
• Having compassion for family members
• Setting boundaries with family members
• Understanding we are, at the core, Soul.
A great audio course to help with this is Heal Your Relationship Karma. Also, for those of you who prefer private work, check out Clarity Coaching.
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