When we finally move through a soul lesson, there comes a day when we notice that whatever we’ve been working on, isn’t with us any more.
The anger we had toward a certain person has dissolved.
The fear we had about a situation had left us.
The worry we had about something in the future isn’t there.
The shame we had about something has disbanded.
We were one way, wrapped up in our thoughts and emotional drama and hurt and blame… and then, suddenly it’s all just gone away.
We’re just not there any more: we’re not in relationship to that person or situation or thought like that any more.
Sometimes we release it.
Sometimes we are cleared.
Sometimes we have been working on it so long, we grow past it.
As you move through your life, you’ll find yourself facing these sticky things: anger, fear, worry, shame… around people and events and situations in your life.
Until one day, you’ll be moseying around doing something ordinary, and you’ll think of this sticky thing, and you’ll find… it’s not there any more.
You’ve worked through it.
You’ve moved past.
You’ve let go.
There is not longer any trigger! It’s not there any more! And sing sweet halleluiah, for yet another soul lesson moved through!
We can get very far with our expansion when we try.
When we have just finished working through a soul lesson, the Universe will often show up with a series of “tests” to make sure we’re really, really done.
For example, if you’ve had difficulty saying “no” to people in the past, but now you’re pretty sure you’ve mastered this lesson… well, right around the time you’re feeling confident, the Universe is going to jump in and send you several people in quick succession that you will have to say “no” to.
“Why are all these people showing up that I have to say “no" to all of a sudden?” you'll wonder.
It will seem so odd, so coincidental, so not random: these people streaming in from all over, all of who require “no” from you.
If you’ve truly mastered this lesson, you’ll be able to say “no” in detached way, and this will be the end of the matter.
If you’re still shaky, if you haven’t quite mastered the lesson, you will find yourself having trouble, agonizing over your decision, maybe saying “yes” by mistake… and the Universe will be clear that you need a bit more work on this particular lesson.
We are tested and tested until we can test out.
If you notice a lot of “repeats” in your life, pay attention. The Universe is testing you to see what soul lessons you’ve mastered, and which ones you’re still working on.
Certainly, no failure.
We’re all in this together, each of us doing the best we can.
After years of warning my kids “don’t smoke pot,” I find myself driving my daughter to school each day past one of the biggest pot grows in the city.
I don’t have much to say about whether I think marijuana should or shouldn’t be legal in Oregon. The reality is, it’s legal now.
Change has come.
Canna businesses have sprung up overnight. There are greenhouses in the rural areas. And in urban areas? Cannibas cafes and dispensaries are as ubiquitous as coffee shops.
Pot is now legal in Oregon, Washington, Alaska, Maine, Nevada, Colorado, Massachusetts and Washington DC. More states are following suit.
The politics of the day (and today especially) lead us to believe that we are going backwards.
Yet when we start to pay attention to what is really happening, instead of what we're fed by the media, a different reality emerges.
Used to be, women couldn't vote... until one day they could.
Used to be, people of color couldn't sit on a bus... until one day they could.
Used to be, same sex marriages weren't allowed... until one day they were.
Used to be, pot wasn't legal...until one day it was.
These are just a few of the "used to be's" we've seen change.
It's true:,some political factions are trying to stop change right now.
But from a soul perspective, we are always evolving toward Oneness.
Even on days it doesn't seem that way, it's just what souls do.
The Catholics have two periods of time in their calendar called “ordinary time”: two periods in the year when there is no feasting and no penance.
It’s the time of everyday life, ordinary stuff: no big highs, no big lows.
If you’re Catholic, you started ordinary time today yesterday. If you’re not Catholic, or not Catholic anymore,, it’s likely that after all the holdays we've just finished, your life also suddenly seeming more ordinary.
We’re back in the groove, although f you’re paying attention, you will notice that the groove we're in now is not the same groove we were in before.
These past few months have opened us up, helped us learn, given us experiences that have altered us completely, given us ways to identify what we care about and what is important to us as a whole .
Right now, these changes are subtle, like tiny flowers just beginning to open.
Ordinary time is a useful time to relax, get back to routine again, and in this very simple way of living life—of taking care of all the things and people you need to take care of—we are integration what we have learned.
Not in the intensive integration of working at it. But in the softer integration of letting it all move through you, as you inhabit your life in an everyday kind of way.
There is nothing ordinary about this time, or about you.
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Right around now, people are already burnt out on the kale and the gym and the futile resistance to chocolate/booze/shopping/internet... whatever it is for you.
We are all in the habit of making New Year’s resolutions: “I hereby solemnly proclaim I will lose X pounds, eat clean, live within my budget”… whatever it is for you.
The thing is… making a New Year’s resolution seems so lofty.
But from soul persepective, it's a proclamation that you don’t love yourself as you are.
It’s saying “I’m not enough”.
I’m not enough with my extra twenty pounds.
I’m not enough with my addictions.
I’m not enough with my distractions.
Yes of course, it is useful to live a more clear and balanced life.
But overall, the Universe doesn’t care about your habits.
The Universe cares about your expansion.
If you (and I) were to stop trying to control the symptoms (the addictions, the distractions) and instead sink deep into spiritual practice where we have daily connection to our soul… well, eventually, over time, all the symptoms would go away.
We would love ourselves as we are.
We would understand that we are works in progress.
We would be gentle and kind and compassionate to our selfs: beautiful humans, far from perfect, walking the path.
Instead of making a bunch of resolutions this year, consider making un-resolutions.
Resolve that you’ll first attend to your soul.
The inner work always shifts the outer.
That’s the place to start.
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It is always interesting to look back at what you've learned in a time period.
The year... it's 365 rotations of sunrise to sunset.
And we are most defintely not the people we were, when we started on this journey back at the beginning of 2016.
So.. how have you changed? HOw have you grown? How are you different?
Here are some questions to ponder, especially effective if you work with a journal and/or meditation, to help you review and understand:
1. What is the one thing you spend the most time doing? The second most?
2. What worked best this year? Name everything you can think of
3. What made you happiest and gave you the most joy?
4. What did not work at all? Do you know why or not?
5. What life goals did you accomplish? Was it a "buidling" year or a "resting" year?
6. What was left undone, or what do you still need to work on?
7. What soul lessons did you learn? Name as many as you can think of.
We move into 2017 with hope, trepidation, uncertainty.
It's going to be a year of more big change. It's okay. The Uinverse is in charge. We are eternal souls on an infinite journey. No need to worry.
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Soon it will be New Year’s, and our year will be tucked away in the memory box, a past that is complete.
Consider at this end of the year, how you will inhabit next year. You get to choose, with your intention and your awareness, how you will inhabit this lifetime.
You get to choose how you will inhabit this new year.
As you celebrate and mark the passing of this year, tucked away into the past, never to be revisited or returned to, do so with heart brimming:
• For all that went well.
• For all that simply was.
• For all you learned.
• For who you have become.
The day after tomorrow is next year.
The sun will rise.
And the Light will return again, to illuminate us all.
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When I was a kid, we moved around a lot: we lived in Washington, California, Hawaii, Switzerland and Norway to name a few, living in furnished homes with all the possessions of the real owners.
We sat on other people’s sofas.
We used other people’s china.
We bathed in other people’s bathtubs.
This is just how life was: my parents were crazy for travel, and we were always heading out somewhere, or coming back from somewhere.
Thus as a young adult starting my own family, it felt natural to pack up every few years and start fresh.
You never get bored. Your stuff doesn’t accumulate. You don’t get habituated to routine. It’s exciting, it’s dramatic, and it’s very, very distracting.
Which is why I am surprised to look at where I live, and realized I have been here eleven years.
The same house, for more than a decade.
The house filled with my stuff.
The house I’ve stuck with.
Here, I have lived through more than 42 seasons: twelve quartets of summer, fall, winter, spring, each passing in sublime glory from one to the next.
Sunflowers to autumn leaves to blustery rain to the greenest spring woods you’ve every seen.
I never imagined living in the country, and it was a rough start at first: I felt trapped, a prisoner in the woods, and it is not underestimated to say I was afraid of everything.
Bugs. Mud. Weather. Dark.
It was only slowly, over time, that I began to understand that living in this hermitage is a gift.
There is nothing boring about allowing yourself to stay in one place for a while: to stop moving, hold steady, and watch the leaves dance in the breeze around you.
I live here now.
For the first time in my life, I hold a sense of place. And I am starting to believe, this place also holds me.
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When we work with fengshui, we work to energetically balance a space or place, so that all of the aspects of life are represented.
We attract abundance to one area.
We open the flow of health to another.
We create the aspect of love in another.
And so on.
We open the flow to these beneficial energies, by creating intention in the space as whole, with intention given to each particular aspect that we wish to realize.
We can also fengshui our time.
In our lives, we are allowed and given permission to use our time exactly how we please.
You might say: oh, I have to work at a particular job for this many hours, or I have to do this task for this many hours. But if you really get down to the truth of it, you are in charge of your time.
You decide what job you will do or not do.
You decide what activities you’re going to do or not do .
It’s really up to you.
And so, you can begin to fengshui your time.
You can spend time that attracts abundance.
You can use time to create the flow of health.
You can inhabit time in creating the aspect of love.
And so on.
Take a look at how you spend your time, and how you think about time, and how you might want to live. Fengshui your time, so your life is balanced and in flow.
And of course, remember that everything is Now, so it’s all happening simultaneously. That means time can’t really be “spent”. There’s always more available. It’s infinite.
Fengshui your life.
Live how you want.
There’s always enough time.
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Do you remember phone boxes? The tiny little building set in the middle of nowhere, that would allow you to make a phone call for a dime, then a quarter...
If you do, you might have had the eerie experience of walking by a phone box, and the phone was ringing. It rang and rang and rang, even though nobody was there to pick it up.
You might have been tempted to answer the call—but you were embarrassed, or unsure, or what if the call was something you didn't want to hear?
Often we don't answer a call from the Universe the same way.
We can hear it ringing and ringing! It's driving us nuts, the call is so loud and clear!
But we're afraid.
Or we're unsure.
Or we don't know how our lives will change, if we dare to answer the call.
Or we're sure our lives will change, and this terrifies us.
Here's the thing: the Universe is always moving us toward our Highest Possibility. Toward more expansion, more opening, more soul growth. That's just how the Universe works.
So you can stop fearing change.
Instead, think of change as expansion.
The Universe continually calls us to grow.
If you've been hearing a call for a while... I invite you to answer it today. Simply say: "I hear you" to the Universe. Simply say "I hear, I accept, I'm willing, I surrender."
And then see what happens.
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By now, you know I frequent talk about how important it is to slow down.
To pare the schedule down.
To get rid of the distraction of busyness.
To stop running around, and simply Stop. Right. Where. You. Are.
One of the interesting thing that happens when we first start to slow down like this, when we first start to try it on as spiritual practice, is that we find slowness unbearable.
It’s as if we’ve been eating sugar every hour, and suddenly we give up sugar.
And we eat a carrot.
And of course the craving for the sugar, for the addiction, for the distraction, for the sense of busy-means-I’m-doing-something really takes us on a ride.
We feel antsy, we feel bored, we feel less than, we feel exhausted… as if once we stop moving, we can’t ever start up again.
If you’re in a personal detox from distraction, take heart. The feelings of utter exhaustion, numbness, flatness, flatness will go away soon. Once the addiction to busy-ness gets out of your system, you’ll start to move to a new groove.
Time will lose all meaning for you.
You’ll pay attention to the easy things.
You’ll chop wood, carry water.
You’ll chop wood, carry water some more.
And pretty soon you’ll find that the simple stuff is just as fascinating and far more interesting than all the distractions you used to do because you thought you were supposed to.
There is more peace and ease in heading outside for a mind-clearing walk, than in all the meetings and activities you can think of.
There is more beauty and grace in simply hanging out, than in all the non-stop schedules you can think of.
We think we’ll get bored if we stop doing stuff.
We have FOMO.
We think we’ll stop existing, if we aren’t in constant motion.
But once you get the addiction to busy out of your system… you find that by doing less, you exist more.
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At a certain age, and I’m going to peg it around 50, we start to understand that we are past the mid point.
We look back, and we see all the years and decades we’ve experienced where we were unconscious, doing things that other people wanted us to do, doing things because that’s how they’ve always been done.
A lot of us at this point have raised kids, been in long-term relationships, been part of mainstream community.
And now, suddenly, we find ourselves in the midst of great change.
We are divorce.
We’ve lost people to death.
We’ve brushed with illness.
We’ve had shifts in work.
Our money’s gone up and down.
We’ve gotten older, and we can see it.
And there’s this sense of loss at first… this desire to linger back in memory and try and pull it all back.
And after we sit with that, there’s this sense of… okay, now what?
How do I want to live my last 1, 10, 20, 40 years?
Now that I’ve gotten this far, and learned all I’ve learned the hard way…. How do I want to live the rest of this lifetime?
There are no rules, folks.
You can live exactly how you please.
You can hang out in the past wishing for what was.
Or you can move forward, starting this minute.
If you are in your mid-life, you might want to sit with this idea of a Universe of Unlimited Expansion, and see what you want to create going forward.
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Sometimes we wonder if we are selfish or self-absorbed to do our inner work, when so many in the world are suffering.
How can it be important to work out our addictions, when people are starving?
How can it be important to release our rage against a family member, when people don’t have water to drink?
How can it be important to let go of the pain of an abusive relationship, when there is war?
The thing is… it’s all related.
Remembering the Oneness Principle: that all is One, and this includes you, helps you to see that whatever you shift in yourself, is shifted for the bigger One, the collective soul that is all of us.
You doing you, the best you can, shifts the whole world… the whole Universe.
Of course, we want to help others.
But sometimes, in certain stages of our lives, the most important way we can help others, is to help ourselves.
We’re all One.
What helps one, helps All.
We’re part of collective soul, and we rise together.
This includes you.
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So maybe you’re not where you want to be yet.
Maybe you weigh too much, or you spend too much, or you have addictions, or you’re mean to your friends, or you are in a relationship that you really don’t like, or you don’t look the way you want to, or you love someone who doesn’t love you back, or you don’t get along with your parents, or you suck at your job, or you don’t have any money or….
You get the idea.
We think need to be perfect to be whole, and we don’t.
We don’t need to be perfect.
We don’t need to get A’s.
We don’t need to be good.
We don’t need to be better than.
In most cases, it’s plenty good enough to be good enough.
Many times, the best thing you can do is do the minimum.
This goes against most of the mainstream, be-your-best rah rah that we’re so accustomed to hearing.
But sometimes, giving yourself a break is the kindest, most compassionate, most loving choice you can make.
Are you perfect?
Is anyone you know perfect?
Didn’t think so.
Love yourself: shadows and gunk and all.
This is how you open your heart.
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Living from soul perspective can sometimes be like trying on a new pair of jeans.
Does this look good on me?
What will others think if I wear this?
Can I really go out in public in this?
How much ice cream did I eat last night?
Often this shows up as trying too hard to be positive: of adopting a Polly-Anna spirituality, where everything is perfect, ideal, miraculous, no matter what happens.
We want to look good in our new soul perspective, so we adopt a false positivity that might include beliefs such as:
• A positive outlook leads to positive results!
• If we can’t manifest our desires, something’s wrong with us!
• It’s important to stay in high vibration all of the time!
• It’s bad to think negative thoughts!
But none of this reflects real life—at least not mine, or the lives of people I know. In real life, we all go through enormous challenges, hardships and times when we don’t feel good at all—and this is part and parcel of the human existence, of our soul’s journey.
Life can very hard. We can feel very badly.
When we rip off the Band Aid of a forced positivity, what is real and true awaits us. And this calmnesss, spaciousness, this relaxation into what is real, brings us a version of life that the soul does not find lacking.
Let yourself feel what you feel.
Trust the Universe.
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We sometimes joke that we have OCD, when we’re being particularly fussy about objects or stuff or things.
My OCD kicked in, we say as we rearrange something on our desk.
I’ve got OCD, we say as we clean something.
It’s OCD, we say as we move something from one part of the room to another.
Now of course, clinical OCD is a real issue, and people who have it suffer. I’ve known several, and it is a tough road.
Yet many of us who are sensitive also experience some aspects of OCD, such as being extremely aware of the objects around us.
For example, if someone you live with moves a chair from one spot to another in the room, it’s something most people might not notice, or even care about.
But for the sensitive person, this shift will be registered immediately: you will sense the change in the energy of the room, a disturbance in the force, so to speak.
If you need to have things just so, as many highly sensitive people do, understand that it is not about being fussy or picky or weird or a perfectionist.
It’s about needing the energy in your surroundings to be a vibrational match to you.; to be a match to your personal frequency, to the layer or level of energy you’re usually in.
It’s a kind of vibrational resonance, and to the sensitive person, everything… and by this I mean everything… plays a part. The chair, the book, the pen, the paper, the way the desk is centered between the window, the temperature in the room, the sounds outside.
If something is off. you’re going to notice it. And if you can change it, you probably will. And if you can’t, you’ll notice it and name it and work around it.
Every object holds energy. We, the animate, are not more energetic than the inanimate. It’s all energy. And if you’re sensitive, you feel and notice it all.
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Have you ever tucked into yourself when you’re out and about in a public place, and noticed the quiet ones?
You know… the introverts, the shy, the highly sensitive, the socially awkward, the observers, the folks with their minds most definitely on a different plane of awareness?
So often, we’re distracted by the loudest person in the room: the biggest personality, the most alpha dog.
And yet, when we turn our heads away from the big noise, and instead look to where all that steady calm is coming from, we notice a whole new kind of power and presence.
You might be a quiet one yourself.
Most sensitives, intuitives, healers, mystics and seekers are.
When you tuck yourself back into yourself and hang out in a spot that you can observe, you notice how the energy is moving in room. You notice the emotions that come from all people, and you see their truth. You even notice the vibration of the objects in the room: how everything is in energetic symphony with everything else all the time, one big wave of Oneness flowing through it all.
I find myself frequently tucked back in, having learned that this is an easier way to go through crowded places where there is a lot of big, loud, extroverted energy.
It’s not spacing out, it’s not hiding. It’s more like putting on my personal cloak of invisibility, so that I can float and flow in the reality more easily, without be distracted by other people’s stuff.
I notice, when I’m wearing my quiet garb, that there are others with their garb on too. We smile as we see each other, tucked back in, observing everything, observing each other, observing ourselves.
There’s a lot of energy in the room all the time. When you tuck back in and go still, you can see there’s more than the noise, the cacophony, the drama, the distraction.
There’s God in the room, all the time.
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The other day, I received an enormous package in the mail.
It was constructed with the impermeability of a fortress: extra-thick cardboard on the outside, and inside: layers and layers of double-dense foam.
We’re not talking the cheap stuff: those puffy pink popcorns that get all over everything, or those wadded up sheets of eco-friendly kraft paper.
This was serious foam: waffled and waving and shock-absorbent as can be, like somebody had packed a memory-foam mattress right inside.
And oh… inside!
For at the center of all this foam was a gift that made me gasp as I maneuvered it out: two gorgeous original pieces of art, beautifully framed.
A gift from my oldest daughter’s boyfriend.
His original art.
Art of his own making.
I put them on the mantle immediately, and what I noticed right away was this: they right in.
They like they’ve been here all the time.
They fit with the same vibe as everything else.
They fit like they’re part of the family.
This gift of art that you make yourself, whether you are a great artist or a beginner, whether you have a lot of talent or none, is a gift that carries the energetic signature of the creator.
This is why it is so magical.
Each brush or pencil stroke, every line or curve or shading, is something that the artist brings into the world: a personal vision of what the Divine provides to the artist as conduit, receiver, channel for the Universe.
If you create art for a particular person, this Universal energy is imbued in your art: you are contemplating the person as you create it. For the hours that it takes you to create your art, you are holding that person’s soul in your very hands.
If you select art for a particular person, you are also considering them from soul perspective: holding them softly in your awareness, trying to discern which piece will best reveal your Universal connection.
Go make some art today, and give it to someone you adore.
It is a gift that connects hearts, every time it is viewed.
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Each of us enters this world as Soul, packaged in a human container, and organized with a particular personality.
We’re not going to change any of it very much: the spirit, body, and mind have to learn to work together in this lifetime. So… don’t fight your personality so much!
If you are a consistent, regular person who does best with an organized practice, go do that. If you are a wiggly, in-the-body person who has trouble sitting on a meditation cushion, don’t sit. Go for a walk, or go dance, or do chi gong. Move through your meditation.
If you are a person who loves to study and read, do that. If you are a person who likes to work from audio, do that. And so on.
My own practice has become like a strand of pearls: a very full day, with each break from work or family dedicated to being one of One, to the fullest extent I can.
When I have three minutes, I might breathe, deeply and gratefully. When I have ten minutes, I might meditate. When I have twenty minutes, I might head out into nature. When I have an hour or more, I might meditate or write or listen to music or… so many ways to open to the Divine. If I have a lot of time, I might head out to the nature around us: the forest, the Pacific Ocean, all the beautiful places here in the Northwest.
I don’t worry about a regular, consistent schedule, because life isn’t arranged that way. Instead, I focus on showing and connecting as often as I can: if I have a little time or a lot, I will dive deep into that space where everything is healed, renewed, become whole. The more room we make for such a life, the more such a life arrives to us.
And while I’m not yet able to live every minute consciously… I am able to bring consciousness to many, many more minutes of my day.
I invite you to let go of all shame, guilt, or unworthiness about how your spiritual practice “should be.”
Do what you can. Connect where you are. Begin to live in Divine space, in the way that is best for you.
I am noticing, and noticing again, the amazing shifts that are happening all around us. We’ve talked already about how some of you struggled and wailed through the past... and now you’re moving along like gangbusters, facing your life in a new way.
Others of you are just starting to feel the effects of awakening now, as in right now, this moment. What I am seeing most here is folks who are breaking karma—actually trouncing long established patterns and saying “no more” to these patterns in their lives.
If this is you, you may be:
• Moving to another location.
• Moving to another living situation.
• Quitting a job that no longer serves.
• Ending a romantic relationship.
• Ending a habit or addiction.
• Ending a habitual thought pattern.
• Breaking off relationships that are toxic and negative.
• Breaking away from ways of living that are dull, numbing, boring.
• Refusing to accept situations that are low vibration. Turning away from low vibration media.
With all this refusal, space is created for a new kind of living. This may include:
• Stepping into your own personal spiritual practice.
• Finally understanding who you really are.
• Accepting the truth of yourself as Divine.
• Allowing yourself to live without fear.
• Allowing yourself to expand into who you can be.
• Loving yourself.
• Loving all those around you.
• Feeling gratitude for the smallest things.
• Being in awe of everything.
It feels like, no matter what stage you’re at: the creation or destruction, the Shiva or Kali, the wave building or the wave receding, we are moving in a deeper, more magical, more mystical way—we are moving in our true natures, or toward our true natures. Celebrate this! Rejoice! It’s been a long time coming.
Joy comes from seva (service) to others.
From a spiritual perspective, seva, or the act of service to others, works because we are all One. When we tend to the least of us, we tend to the all of us. When we bestow gifts, friendship, or help to another this is the same as bestowing it upon ourselves.
None of us are separate. Seva or service allows us to give freely from our selves, and in doing so, we become aware of our infinite and endless connection as souls.
“But I don’t have enough for myself,” you might say. “I’m struggling to make it as it is.” This may seem true upon first glance. But when you look closer, you find that abundance—true abundance—is not found in material STUFF, but in the opening of our hearts into compassion, connection, and love.
Seva, or being of service to those you love, those you don’t even know—and even those you might not be too fond of…. well, it opens your heart. On an energetic and spiritual level, there’s nothing quite like it.
Give to someone you know, someone you don’t know, even someone you don’t like. Be of service to the other who is also you.
Notice how your heart busts right out of your body.
If you go to the gym and lift weights, you’ll come across this idea of personal best, personal record, your PR.
It’s the idea that each time you lift, you try to lift a little bit more weight than the time you did before.
Maybe just for one rep, if that’s what you can do.
The idea is that you’re always pushing to expand your ability to lift so that you get stronger faster. Your body catches on to the idea that you’re lifting more, so it learns to lift more.
When I go to the gym, I work on my PR often. But not every time. I’m not very interested in having experiences where I’m trying to push harder, work harder, go faster, do more.
I'm interested in being in the experience as a whole, and letting my body tell me what it needs. Most days, I experience the gym as a kind of meditation, or a clearing or a cleansing.
I don’t need to put a bunch of markers on my experience.
I don’t need to have the pressure of doing “good” or “not good” enough.
I don’t need to have any sense of failure, if I don’t hit a new PR.
Over time, it will come.
Just showing up fully present, is plenty.
When you are working on expanding your spiritual Self, I think it’s good to take the same approach. Some days, you’ll do a lot of meditation, a lot of inner work, a lot of study. Other days, you’ll go through the motions. Sometimes, you won’t do anything: you’ll skip your practice, and do other things.
Take a look at how much you’re pushing yourself in your inner work. Being a Spiritual Overachiever isn’t very helpful. It tires you out, and wears you down, and puts you in a place where it’s hard to hear the whispers of the Universe.
A lot of people offer training programs or certification programs, and I offer one myself.
But I don’t think the certification itself matters very much.
It’s similar to belts in martial arts: a lot of people have a very strong desire to get a black belt, for example. But by the time they get there, they realize that the belt itself doesn’t matter so much.
What is important, is doing the work. Having the understanding. Experiencing the teachings and beginning to live it as a practice.
Martial arts is hard: there’s a lot to learn, and practice, and commit to muscle memory. It takes time and dedication to learn it, and you change a lot along the way.
Spiritual work is hard too. It causes you to give up a lot of your life that you had so nicely, neatly organized. It can mean you have to quit relationships, quit jobs, move, absent yourself from friends and family, and change all the parts of yourself that are no longer aligned with the new Self that is emerging.
You can’t put that on a piece of paper.
I offer the certification training, because it gives people a path to follow.
You can go all the way, if you want. And when you do, you’ll find the certification means nothing. It’s the work, the understanding you did on the way to get there.
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There was a time when I worked two or three jobs for years. Back in the day, I had four kids in the house, and my then husband was in law school and couldn’t work much.
We had very little money; it always ran out before the month did. There were groceries and clothes and diapers and daycare. And so I worked: a part time job, and a freelance job, and another freelance job. And we kind of cobbled together survival from these tiny little paychecks.
I felt really proud to support my family. But for those many years, I had no free time, no me time, no downtime, because I was always working. I got up early and did my freelance job, I got the kids to school, went to my regular job, picked up the kids, did the activities-dinner-homework-bath thing, and started it all over again the next day.
Some mornings when I woke up, I felt like crying, because the day was going to be so darn hard: no break, no chance for a slip up, the endless, grueling scheduling of just keeping it together. I know a lot of you have been through this, or maybe you’re in this now.
What I wish I could have understood then, is that I didn’t have to push so hard. I didn’t know how to meditate then, I didn’t know how to have direct connection with the Universe. I didn’t have any kind of spiritual practice.
If I had only slowed down, stopped pushing, and let the Universe show me, I know that something different would have opened up.
It’s just that back then, I didn’t know how to do this.
If you’re in a place where everything feels hopeless, where you wake up and want to cry first thing because it all seems too hard, consider letting go.
Stop pushing. Stop being afraid. Stop trying to control it all. Connect in to the Universe, and see what plans are there for you.
Chances are good, there is another way to live, that is much more enjoyable than how you are living now.
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I sometimes read Calvin Corelli, who blogs about coding and being an artist and being yourself. I like him because he’s super bright and got a very Scandinavian-goes-to-New-York point of view.
Recently, he wrote about how he kicked his smoking habit, which had been a pack a day for many years.
And he wrote about the idea of how we have to love our habits, and ourselves in our habits. That’s the only way to let go of our vices.
This makes perfect sense to me: we need to love the part of our Self who wants to eat ice cream, or drink wine, or stay up way too late watching Netflix, or skip the gym/yoga/run, or use drugs, or smoke. We need to love the part of our self who doesn’t show up fully present, who is withdrawn from connection, or sarcastic to others, or who has anxiety or anger or who simply can’t deal.
These are parts of our Self that are intricately wrapped and woven in our being. We can’t just shed those parts, and be left with our high and holy Self. We’re all of it: the good, the bad, the all of it.
Even if you stop smoking, drinking, eating junk food, doing drugs or whatever it is that you consider your “vice,” that part of you that wants that release, that self-medication, doesn’t go away.
Instead of fighting a vice, you might try something different: start to inhabit that part of you that is more grounded, more adult, more disciplined, more clear, and start to live there more often.
You will find that the weaker, lay-around-eating-chips self, soon takes second position. It’s still there, but you’re not interested in listening to it.
You still love this part of yourself, because it was invaluable in showing you how much pain you were in. But you relegate it to the place of a child, your immature Self. You love it. But you don’t let it lead you anymore.
Try this out, if you’re trying to get through an addiction or bad habit. It’s a process to be sure, and you may not see change overnight. But over time, you will.
You can love your whole Self. But you don’t have to let your immature Self be in charge.
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