Each of us arrives into this lifetime perfectly. 

We arrive into the perfect time and perfect place, exactly as we have chosen in our life-between-lives, so that we will be perfectly positioned to meet everyone in our soul circle. 

Some in our soul circle are family. 
Some are friends, lovers, colleagues. 
Even the so-called random helpers we meet on a whim are in our soul circle.

You have karma with every person you meet. 
You'll meet every person you're destined to.
Your soul circle supports you always—even those times when you are lonely, or feeling isolated, or feeling like no one could possibly understand. 

Even those you might never meet in person—such as all the people reading this blog right now, or all the people who will listen to the radio show today—we're all in a soul circle too. 

We're kindred spirits, working on our soul growth together. 
It is good to remember we are all supporting each other. 

Part of being a sensitive, awakened person is that we want to help others. 
This is only natural—as souls, our purpose is to help other souls. 

Yet sometimes we come to  place where we mistakenly think that helping others is more important than helping ourselves. 

"I just want to HELP," I commonly hear people say, when they discover their gifts in healing, intuition and spirituality. Again, it's a natural, correct and generous feeling. 

And yet sometimes, we need to focus on ourselves. 

It's very easy as an intuitive and empath (which all of you are) to see with laser-like focus what's out of balance in someone else's life. We spot the problem immediately, and we want to help, we want to fix, and sometimes we even want to save. 

But this can become a distraction.
Sometimes, we become so aware of what's going on for others, we forget to look at what's going on for us.

If you believe that your sole purpose is to HELP others, you might take a small step back from this view, and check in with yourself. 

Is there anything in your life that needs to balance? 
Is there anything going on that needs resolving?
Do you need some healing? 
Do you need some rest? 

When we take care of ourselves, we become stronger and more whole. And when we lift ourselves, we also lift everyone. 

Most of us have had our share of Valentine's Days.
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Some have been good. 
Some have been, well...not so good. 

There can be this sense of dread that creeps in, if you aren't currently lock-step with the cultural expectation for over-the-top-romance on this day.

What society tells us is:
We're supposed to be in love. 
We're supposed to be romantic.
We're supposed to be together.
We're supposed to be twin-flamed.

But none of this is real. 
It's just a made-up story. 
It doesn't reflect who we really are, at any given time in our lives.

On any given Valentine's Day, some of us will be celebrating with our Beloved, some of us will be estranged, some of us will be with friends or family, some of us will be alone .

There is no one way.
And all ways are valid. 

I personally get so stressed out by the cultural expectations of Valentine's Day, that I don't really mark that day. 

You can do whatever you want on February 14, too. 

To my mind, the BIG LOVE we all share—our love as souls, our interconnection, the way we feel when our hearts are open to each other—is a way of celebrating love that brings true joy. 

A lot of times as sensitives, we like to withdraw from the world. 

The energy gets to be overwhelming, and it feels better to get all hygge on it—the Danish term for everything cozy and comfy and homey. 

It is great to nestle into our favorite spaces and do quiet internal things. 
But sometimes... that isn't enough. 

Sometimes going quiet or going internal is a way of distracting ourselves from the true reality that it's time to make some changes in our life. 

Especially in winter, when it is very easy to get very comfortable staying in, we can find ourself not just comforted by our quiet pursuits—but stuck in them. 

The idea is not to change your personality—it is a true gift to be sensitive!
The bigger question is if our internal ways are serving us, or hiding us. 

If you've been holing up or hiding out  this winter, you might meditate on these four questions:

• What's working in my life? 
• What's not working? 
• What's trying to change? 
• What must change? 

And just see what shows up for you. 

When you go out in a crowd of people, do you tend to separate?

If you're empathic, like so many of you are, you may feel the need to use protection—to surround yourself with light, to wear a protective shield, to use a psychic cloaking device. 

But thinkgs are changing.
And what you might be feeling now, is that you can be more open. 
You can connect more. 
You can feel part of. 

As more and more souls become conscious, we're going to feel an increase in our connection-at-all-times-with-everyone. We're trending toward less us-vs-them, and more simply us.

It can be interesting to notice how you feel now, when you are out and about.
Not how you used to feel. 
But how you actually feel today, as part of collective soul. 

So many of you have written recently about your experience with deja vu with the places you've travelled, that I wanted to share further. 

I suspect many of us are time travelers. 

Many of us astral project in our dreams—we travel to distant lands, sometimes familiar but more often half-remembered when we awaken. 

We visit people we know-but-don't-know in our dreams—people who come from past lives or other karmic crossings. 

And we shift into different times—ancient TIbet, or Germany or wherever and whenever it is that you tend to often visit.

We call it dreaming. 
But what's really happening is that we are time traveling—we are astrally projecting in time and space. 

And of course, if we can do this in dreamtime, we can do it meditation. 
Which is something you can easily learn. 

It's wonderful, it's fascinating—and once you're doing this as a practice, you understand how limitless this life as a soul can be.