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    Your strength is from within.

    If you frequentliy surround yourself with white light or wear a crystal or amulet as a means of protection, consider what you are doing.

    ​So often we think that if we surround ourselves with white light, or wear a certain talisman, we are protecting ourselves from outside forces of darkness. We think we are applying a protective coating on our auras, or creating a circle of protection that we are safe inside.

    These are old ideas, that bring up old superstitions of dark and light, of the idea that we are vulnerable to darkness at any time.

    It is true, that darkness is real.

    But it is also true that our own soul, as it leans toward the Light, is source of true power and protection and strength against all darkness, no talisman or extra circle of protection needed.

    As you meditate, as you pray, as you are with your guides as spiritual practice, you will understand what it means to lean toward the Light every day, and you won't have use for the old superstitions, the old ideas about punishment and pain and fear.

    We’re all Light, all the time.

    We can remember this, and carry this knowing and power with us. 
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    Taking a break from family.

    If you have a lot of dysfunction in your family, but you keep going back for more, you might consider giving yourself a breather.

    ​There are families where the dysfunction is so bad, such as with abuse or addiction, that the ties need to be broken. It’s too damaging to see those family members again.

    But there are other families, where it’s just very emotional and dramatic and painful, and in these cases, it’s a matter of working through it, over time. That's where your soul growth happens.

    However, working through it doesn’t mean every day, always.

    If you find that you are working through your feelings about your father, your mother, your siblings, whoever it is, and you’ve reached a place where it’s just very confusing and difficult, consider taking a break from contact with them, for awhile.

    Take a breather, and re-assess.

    This freedom will allow you to see that you are not permanently bound to them for life; even with relatives, it is always our choice to spend our time with them, or not.

    Allowing yourself a break will help you gain perspective, and this will show you if you need more boundary, or more compassion, in going forward with your healing. 
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    Wallowing in woe

    It’s very easy to get attached to our ennui, our angst, even if things are going pretty well.

    • Sometimes we have a more melancholic personality.
    • Sometimes the colder, darker weather brings it on.
    • Sometimes the friends we are with find it fashionable to be a little bit emo.
    • Sometimes we are using substances such as alcohol and drugs, that dampen down our normally more sunny and active personalities.

    ​If we start to wallow in our sadness, in our melancholy, we waste a lot of time in our precious live. If we start to give in to the grey or even dark energy of dissatisfactions, complaining, feeling nothing is right, this can be a dangerous spiral.

    There are ways to bring yourself up, and ways to bring yourself down, and it can be as simple as adjusting the chemical balance of your body. If you eat junk food, watch too much TV, never exercise, use substances, and stay up way too late, you’re going to feel sad. If you eat clean food, meditate and get into nature, excerise, have a clean lifestyle, and sleep when you need to, you’re going to feel energized and calm, for the most part.

    Sadness can be fun for a day or two, but as a lifestyle choice, it is a way of lving numb.

    It is your choice, as to how you live, every single day.
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    Living in fantasy land.

    There’s a fine line between living in the land of our dreams, where we are actively creating and manifesting our reality, and living in fantasy land, where we are hiding from the real world.

    The way to tell the difference, is to notice what actions you are taking.

    If you have a deep longing to be an artist, for example, it is a beautiful thing to dream and imagine the art you will create. However, the actions are what separate the artist from the non artist: you must draw or paint or photograph or whatever is your medium, and this must be the primary activity of your life, once you have finished with your responsibilities for keeping yourself and your family sheltered and fed.

    If you’re not doing art, but just thinking about art… you’re living in fantasy.

    The only way you can get to your dream is through action: even if you’re not good at art yet, even if what you put on the paper does not match what is in your mind.

    Over time, with daily practice, with teachers and workshops, you will get better. This might take years, but it will happen.

    This is why the journey to our dreams is a journey; we do not gain the experience we need from only dreaming and imagining and fantasizing about something.

    We need to take active steps, in order to get there.
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    When love isn't returned.

    When we are attracted to someone, but they don’t love us back, it can be heartbreaking.

    What’s important to keep sight of, is your own value.

    So often we think if we just try harder, or are more available, or love better, or look nicer or whatever it is, that the object of our affection will suddenly look up and notice us with new eyes. Unfortunately, this isn’t true, and when we’re in this smitten, infatuated, love blind state, we can’t always see it.

    When someone loves you and wants to be with you, if he or she is available, he or she will make it very clear. There isn’t any guessing, or wondering, or analyzing every move. There isn't any danger or drama or uncertainty.

    There will be direct attraction, direct connection, and a very clear moving forward.

    If you’re infatuated with someone, and you’re not seeing this type of movement, either that person is unavailable, or not interested in you.

    This doesn’t mean you should try harder, or change even one little hair on your head.

    Just accept that this person is not your soul mate, and move on. Your soul mate will be absolutely clear with his/her availability, desire and intention.

    Wait for this. 
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    Expanding your sexual self.

    If you are interested in having tantric experiences, or in having transcendent intimacy, you don’t need a lot of partners, or a new partner.

    This is not to say you can’t have different partners; that's up to you, and is determined by your stage of life, your commitment to others, and by your own particular understanding of love at this time. 

    However, in order to expand yourself sexual self, all you need to do is to become fully present with one person.

    The thing is; it’s very difficult to become fully present with another person.

    It’s about real, raw intimacy: where you show up without your mask, without your cool, without your reputation as player or lover or whatever it is.

    You show up, and you don’t just take off your clothes. You take off your skin.

    In this way, true sexual intimacy is a  profound spiritual experience: you will find that time exists differently, energy shifts in a new way, when you open yourself to another and the other opens to you in this profound, deep, real way.

    If you seek transcendence in sex, try showing up fully as yourself, no barriers, no walls, no resistance, just you.