If you live with others, either in a family, extended family, with roommates or a partner, you know that there is a delicate dance between independence and expectations.

It’s interesting to take stock now and then, at how things are set up: what the group expects, what the group likes or doesn’t like, what individuals in the group are more similar in personality style, or more different.

Looking at everything, not just the division of chorse or expenses, but everything, right down to who’s inhabits what room and how the furniture is arranged, can be eye-opening. Sometimes there is more private space for people who need private space, just by shifting the way your space is organized. Often getting rid of things that don’t work, opens up possibilities for living in a new way.

Especially if you’ve lived in a space for a long time, it’s easy to get habitual about things; but if you start by looking at your house or apartment as a new space, a fresh slate to work with, then you begin to see new possibilities.

Take a look at your living space, and imagine how you might do it differently, if you were just moving in.

Think about how you want to live, not about how you’ve been living out of routine. 

If you think you need to make a certain amount of money, or have a certain amount of material items, or have your home or wardrobe be a certain way, or eat certain foods, look at this.

Sometimes, the gift of having choice, becomes a curse of having too much choice.

When you go to bigger cities, where there is a lot of money, it is shocking and obscene to go to a grocery store, or a retail store or a big shopping mall, and see the absolute excess of overabundance that is laid out before us, like a treasure chest spilling riches.

The thing is: all of this stuff is great. But it’s also incredibly confusing.

We want something, we get it… or maybe we don’t get it. And all around us, people are literally, truly, really starving.

Take a look at how you live, and see if you really need more.

Maybe more of what you really need, is less.

If you have experienced bullying and abuse, you know there is a fine line between being a victim, and being afraid to stand up for yourself.

Now, if you are a child being victimized, when you have no power and no way out, that is one thing. And if you are a disenfranchised person being victimized, that is another way out: you may have children to protect, or you may have no other way to survive at the moment.

However. If you are being bullied in your life, and you have choices that are you aren’t taking: leaving a job, leaving a relationship, ending a friendship, breaking it off with a family member…. you need to look at your own role as a victim.

Sometimes we are victimized and we have no ability to defend ourselves, at the moment. Over time, we will grow up, grow in power, or things will change and we will have that moment, where we can stand up for ourselves and stop being bullied.

Sometimes, we are victimized and we stay as victims, because we are afraid to change. If you are experiencing bullying or abuse in your life right now, take a long hard look at your willingness to stay in victim role.

You can be free, if you desire. It is not easy, but you can do it. 

There is the statement “Be the change you want to see in the world,” which is a very good statement, and it applies to how we can help elevate the whole world.

But there is also the idea that you can be the change you want to be, in your world. That’s right: in your personal reality.

If things aren’t working for you, change them. If you’ve been doing things the same way for a long time, make a change. If you’re in relationships that are excruciatingly stuck, change them.

It’s not about walking away from things, or giving up, or failing to see things through. It’s about being hyper aware of where the Flow is in your life.

The Universe is always changing: expanding and contracting infinitely. This includes you as a being: you’re always expanding and contracting and expanding and contracting, over and over. Y

You’re not here to be stuck, static, only being one way.

Be the change, in your own life. This is how you grow. 

If you think you aren’t making progress toward your goals and dreams fast enough, you might be wrong.

The incremental moments from where we are at this moment, to where we will be in three years, or five years, or ten years, are pretty subtle.

​The Universe is a grand machine of synchronicities and layers and levels, and a whole lot of things have to come into place in order to set you, as a soul, onto this journey that you think you want.

The other thing is: when we have a big goal, like being an author, or starting a business, or becoming a rock star, or getting really fit… we need the time between start and result, so we can integrate what’s happening.

If you shift your body from chubby to skinny in a month, you don’t always know who you are. If you become a rock star overnight, same thing happens.

The joy is in the journey. That’s where we learn and feel and integrate everything.

Relax today. Everything is going as it should. 

Manifesting our reality, mean doing what we want to do later, now.

It’s as simple as that.

If you want to paint full time and quit your day job, the most important thing you can do is find time to paint every day, and expand the amount of time you are painting.

If you want to write full time and quit your day job, the most important thing you can do is find time to write every day, and expand the amount of time you are writing. 

If you want to lose weight and inhabit a fit, youthful body, the most important thing you can do now is find time to shift your nutrition and your exercise, and to expand the amount of time you are in healthy lifestyle. 

If you put your intention and your action into something, the Universe will see that that is where your energy is going, and that’s what will happen.

Do what you want to do later, now.

And the Universe will anchor or attach that reality to you, and that’s what will happen.