The very aspects that make us so human... our emotions, our feelings, our hurts, our wounds, our so-called failures... this is the exact same stuff that helps us open and expand.
So often, people are concerned about improving themselves, whether it's physically, financially, whatever. But instead, the real secret is to expand yourself... expand your heart. Expand your mind. Expand your emotional depth.
The surface stuff doesn't matter in the end... and it also doesn't matter now, either. The deep stuff is where life's purpose lies.