That's because hating someone or something makes us feel terrible; it causes us a lot of pain.
What's more, even though we think hate might be the opposite of love, it’s not. Hate is caused by love. Love is about connection in an unconditional way; hate is about lack of connection in a conditional way.
For example, we hate people who have betrayed us, we hate people who have injured us or let us down. Hate is about wanting to love, and being open to love, and then for whatever reason, having that opening into love being shut down.
Hate comes from the pain of not having love.
When you’re dealing with hate in your heart, look at what’s really there. It’s not anger, it’s not fear. It’s pain.
If you find yourself in that place, take a break from hate for a moment, and acknowledge that you are feeling pain.
Getting the hate out, is about feeling the pain, and then feeling compassion because you’re a human, and so is everyone else.
If you can move into a state of compassion, the hate will dissipate, even if it’s just a little bit. Over time—maybe months, maybe a lifetime—you can remove it entirely.
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