 In which everyone runs around trying to do what everyone else is doing, because they are afraid that everyone else is having a better time than they are.
FOMO has been around since Caveman A made fire and Caveman B wanted a piece of the action, but it’s been exacerbated by social media and this new 24/7 connection that we now have with anyone, anywhere in the world. It used to be that FOMO paced slower: we’d read about celebrities and their glamorous lives in magazines, but issues came out monthly, so there was a lot of downtime. Sure, the A-List was something to aspire to, but it didn’t seem real: they were Them, and we were us, doing our humble little lives of non-celebrityness. Nowadays, everyone’s a celebrity, everyone’s out doing unique and exciting things. Even a Subaru commercial is more exciting that most people’s day-to-day! And it’s not that all these FOMO events are all that exciting: there’s a lot of press on Kim Kardashian taking her kid to ballet class, for example, and believe me: I have taken kids to ballet class, and it is not all that it’s cracked up to be! So here we have it: Everyone looks like a rock star or an artist or a model, even if they’re not. Everyone seems super interesting, even if they’re not. Everyone looks like they’re having way more fun than you are. And this causes most of us to feel this intensive, anxious, FOMO. Like, what if my life isn’t cool enough? What if my friends aren’t interesting enough? What if my trip to the grocery store doesn’t look like a cool trip to the grocery store? And so on. If we take it a step further, FOMO makes us afraid to get out of the game, because downtime is boring, isn’t it? And take it a bit further, to where we’re really at: Will I even exist, if I am not in this continuous swirl of group energy? Will I even exist, if I am not constantly tethered to group thought? Will I be anyone, if I stop being everyone? Welcome to Oneness. We’re all One, all the time, and we’re just getting use to the idea. FOMO is one way we feel pulled by the energy of Oneness: we feel the urge to merge with everyone, and we’re afraid that if we aren’t in group energy, we won’t exist. If you’re feeling FOMO, relax. Oneness doesn’t go away. We’re in it, the cosmic energy soup of everyone and everything, always, whether we want to be or not. FOMO? The bigger truth is this: we can’t get separate, even if we wanted to. Much love, SARA P.S. Sign up now for small group training Summer 2017!
Kim
5/15/2017 10:35:41 am
Laughing...so laughing ------ What on earth does FOMO stand for?
Sara
5/15/2017 04:34:41 pm
Ah.... FOMO. Fear. Of. Missing. Out.
Grant
5/15/2017 10:44:12 am
My sentiments exactly, what does FOMO mean?
Emma
5/15/2017 11:10:09 am
FOMO is the fear of missing out - anxiety that something is happening that you're misdung out on...
Sara
5/15/2017 04:35:08 pm
You got it, Emma! Thanks.
Kim
5/15/2017 11:22:55 am
Fear of Missing Out - Never ever heard of that.......Well I am not much of a crowd/happening person, The Kardashians have never been of any interest to me and there is so much going on in my own head that I am very preoccupied to even concern myself with possibly missing out on something. To those that suffer from this - I wish you peace and a breakthrough to the other side of this feeling.
Sara
5/15/2017 04:36:57 pm
The highly connected times we live in have created new challenges. We're connected. We always were connected. But we are just start to realize it in real life.
Sakiba
5/15/2017 03:18:34 pm
I can't stop laughing...Several years ago I was in the place you are describing, being connected to social media all the time... It took me some time to realize I am taking on unnecessary things and looking at things that have no meaning to me. So, I stopped. I feel less anxious, have more energy(still wish for more energy... Lol) and am focused on things that master to me.
Sara
5/15/2017 04:36:05 pm
Thank you, Sakiba! I am so interested that people are laughing. Resistant to FOMO creates laughter!!!! ;)
Kim
5/15/2017 04:56:19 pm
I'm laughing because I have never heard of such a thing. I'm not denying it and I do understand what you are referring to, once it was brought to my attention.
Marie
5/15/2017 07:05:43 pm
Ok so I was wondering also what FOMO stood for I was that young person, never wanted to miss a party. Now I don't have the need anymore, just crave peace, no drama.
Sara
5/17/2017 12:58:03 pm
Yes. Once we realize More Distraction doesn't mean Happier, we stop.
Heather
5/24/2017 12:05:30 pm
If I could add a laughing imogi I would - for fear of missing out of always adding an imogi. Instead.... haha. I'm happier without my cell phone or the latest gossip. Nature walks and hanging out by the water is my thing now. Thanks for this posting.... as you can see, I am way behind on my emails. Cheers! Comments are closed.
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Sara Wiseman is an award-winning author and visionary spiritual teacher. She is the founder of Intuition University,writes the Daily Divine blog, and hosts the popular Ask Sara and Spiritual Psychic podcasts, with over 2.1 million subscribers.
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