Sometimes, we’re both people in the same day.
This idea that we have to be afraid of our feelings, whether we are an “over feeler” or an “under feeler”, just isn’t true.
Feelings come on like a wave: if you really start to pay attention to how they show up, you will start to see that they are not unannounced. They build in the body, slowly and with small amounts of tension or emotion, and after a while they build enough, just like a wave building, so that we are able to identify them as feelings.
If you’re a person who feels “too much”, you sense the wave and you notice it building, and then you have an emotional response to the feeling. You feel it all.
If you’re a person who blocks feeling, you sense the wave and they you very quickly distract or attempt to distract yourself from this feeling.
There are lots of ways to do this: getting busy, getting angry, running away, various addictions. They all work to block the building wave of feeling.
The thing is, just like a wave, feelings dissipate pretty quickly.
If you’re a person who feels everything, all you need to do is breathe, hang on, and wait for the wave to build, crash and recede.
If you’re a person who tends to block feelings, all you need to do is resist the urge to distract yourself, and know that this will all be over soon.
We don’t have to be overwhelmed, or run away from our feelings.
Like a wave, they crash and recede. They are transitory, and not something to be afraid of.
P.S. Will you be joining us for small group training this January?