I'm 45 and miserably alone. Married at 19 yrs old for 15 yrs. Divorced now for 10 yrs. He broke my heart and shattered my dreams. After l divorced l met a older man who l fell in love with and everything was wonderful with him. One thing he is married. Promised me for years he would divorce her. He hasn't done the first step. So my question is what the heck am l supposed to do. Wait or run? What if l never find a man who gets me like that? I'm so depressed and lonely. Thank you—Lily
Many folks have been surprised how much impact getting divorced can have—even if it's the right choice, it can be sort derailing of where your life was going, where you thought your life was going. Sometimes it takes a long time to get back on track.
The first thing for you to look at is to determine if you are actually, truly "clear" from your marriage. I don't sense that you are. There is an adage that it takes six months for every year of relationship, to fully become "clear" energetically; I have found this to be a fair estimate. It takes much, much longer than we realize.
Your first step is to dive back in, and get that old relationship cleared up. You can do this pretty easily with my course Heal Your Relationship Karma. There are also some nice, very specific chapters on this in my book Becoming Your Best Self.
The next thing is to let go of that married man. He will never, never, ever leave his wife. I'm sorry about that, but it's just not going to happen. He makes you feel good, bur really only on his terms... he's not a true partner, and if he really "got" you, he would not be keeping you on a string. It's a waste of your time to be in a relationship that cannot move forward. Again, it's not going to move forward; he will not ever leave his wife.
Break off with him as soon as you can... and clear the energy of that relationship.
Once you are clear of both of these karmic situations: clearing from your ex, clearing from your affair, you will begin to be in a place where you can create a new, real, true relationship. To do this, I would suggest that you first simply begin to have direct connection with the Divine: prayer, meditation, going in talking with your guides and angels. The course and book above also help with this.
No relationship—at least no healthy relationship—will come to you until you have done the above work a) the clearing and b) the connection. You will be surprised how quickly the energy moves, and how quickly your life begins to change, when you take care of this stuck, old energy.