Every year it’s the same: I lose my willpower on holiday cookies and candy. It’s everywhere, I can’t escape it! My coworker brings treats in almost every day, and then we get food from clients that goes into the break room. When I go to holiday parties it’s more of the same. What can I do to resist the weight gain this year? —Lynnette
The holidays are certainly a time of year when it’s easy to overeat, overdrink, overindulge. The idea of feast and celebration is certainly valid! But when it becomes our habit from Halloween through New Year’s, we start to feel sick, stressed, yucky—and not one bit Divine.
In your case, I’m not going to tell you to diet, or resist in any way. Instead, I’m going to ask you to simply notice how you feel, both physically and mentally, when you overindulge. Again, you’re not trying to resist or change. I’m simply asking you to notice what you feel.
There are two parts to this. First, most holiday foods are highly toxic: the processed food, the sugars, the fats, the alcohol. We’ve been told that these foods are “treats”—and yet our bodies know that they make us feel sick. So, we get confused. Often, this “treat” message is deeply held from childhood. When we begin to get mindful, to consciously notice, we’re able to separate out our emotional feeling, our memory, our confusion.
For example, when you eat a particular food, notice what memories or images come up. Who gave you this food first? What were the circumstances surrounding it?
Again, don’t try to resist. Simply relax into it. If you get in a binge loop, stop as soon as you’re able, and hold yourself very gently, noticing what comes up.
Second, recall that you are a Divine being. That’s the constant part of you. The earth body goes through many changes over time, but the soul is unwavering and eternal. Simply recall yourself as Divine being, when faced with overindulging or binging. Hold yourself in Divine view, and see how you begin to shift.
Third, no blame, no guilt, no spiraling into self loathing. If you overeat, simply begin again the next opportunity. Hold yourself gently, and look at it all from soul perspective. The 33 Lessons in my book Writing the Divine might also help with this.