I have lived in my home for over 30 years. It has been my little heaven on earth. Five years ago my husband passed away with no means to keep our home which has led to foreclosure proceedings. I have been struggling with everything in my being to keep our home. Do you think I will be able to keep it, or should I just let it go and move on? Sincerely, Deanna
I am so sorry to hear of all your struggles. It has been a very difficult passage for you. This is very hard. Sometimes we make choose change, such as choosing to be divorced, leave a home, sell a home relocate and so forth. But you didn't choose to make changes, and yet changes came anyway.
This is the nature of our human experience: change always happens. We can't prevent it any more than we can prevent growing older every day, or eventually, one day, dying and moving on to the next life.
I sense that in your struggle to save the home, you've put off some grieving. As if, if you can save the home, you will also save the relationship with your husband, and bring him back.
It feels like now is a good time to look at this, perhaps with the help of a counselor, and realize that even if you let the home go, you will still have the relationship with your husband—the departed are always with us.
It feels like it would make your life much less stressful to let the home go and move into a place where you can begin the next stage of our life, with less financial pressure.
None of this is easy. But understand that in letting the house go, you don't let go of your love for your husband. That's always with you.