It's been 3 years since I met Thomas. I'm married to a sweet husband that loves me deeply. I have strong feelings for my lover, I feel a strong attraction.
Thomas is also married, also deeply in love with his wife. It seems that I'm the only one very wrong. I can't stop thinking about him, and even though he loves being with me very once in a while, he resists to that and want to be a good man.
I would like to be in love with my husband in that way, but the only thing I can think of is that Thomas is extremely handsome and sexy. Can you give me some light?. Thank you. - Lisa
I find it's pretty normal to find other people to be extremely handsome and sexy! This is a part of being human, and of being souls—our greatest longing is to connect and to come to Oneness with each other. Plus, everyone is a Beautiful Soul, when you look deeply and with love.
However... There's something out of balance energetically in your life right now, and it's always good to illuminate what's going on. To really get in there and LOOK at it, instead of just letting things happen.
You say that your husband loves you deeply; I sense this is true. However, it's also true that his feelings won't be the same if he finds out about your affair with Thomas.
Also; this is the same for Thomas and his wife.
Energetically, it's very difficult for people in today's society to be with more than one mutually exclusive, monogamous relationship at a time. There are open relationships, of course, which is a different way of deciding to approach relationship.
But you're not in an open relationship. And neither is Thomas.
The main thing to know is this: Thomas is not your answer. What you seek doesn't lie with him. He's a fantasy, a projection, something that you letting your thoughts loop on; he's not really real.
If he was real, he'd be at your doorstep, divorced, pleading with you to come with him
But... he's not doing that.
Your boredom with your husband may need to be fixed, or maybe that relationship is done. I suspect your boredom is really with YOURSELF; you are not living at the level that you are capable of. Not risking enough, not growing enough.
Three years is too long to be wasting your life in a fantasy, projection.
You might also like my course Heal Your Relationship Karma, or even do both.
My best advice to you: detach yourself from Thomas, look at what's really going on with you and your husband, and start looking at who you really want to be, and how you really want to live.