I think I’ve met my soul mate. He’s younger than me, and I feel alive again. I just turned 58 this year. The way I feel with him is beyond anything I’ve every felt—I can’t explain it, but there’s such STRONG attraction and intensity. He’s not married and he doesn’t have a girlfriend, but I have the feeling he might be seeing other women right now. My marriage has been over in my heart for a long time, but I for financial reasons I don’t want divorced. Is it wrong to have an affair? If this is true love, how will I know and what should I do?—Lyra
Sara answers: Lyra, you know I love you! And Lyra, you know I don’t make judgments about what you or anyone else does… we’re all here on earth doing the best we can, making our way on our path!
That said… it’s time to get your head on straight, and accept yourself as what you really are: a Divine being. And, I’m here to tell you that Divine beings don’t go around with other men when they’re married!
The attraction you feel is not true love. This man is not your soul mate. It’s simply excitement—you’ve been bored for a while. This isn’t your husband’s fault, Lyra! It’s your job to create your own life, to fill your life with the people and pursuits that keep you interested, passionate and empowered. So, let’s step back a bit, and look at the true problem: your boredom. Let’s take a break from Casanova; don’t see him, break all contact. Get a counselor, or do a private session with me to clear this up.
Don’t use this man as a distraction any further—I can tell you it will certainly lead to disaster. Instead, take a long, hard look at yourself, your life and what you really want. That way, you can move forward in clarity.
You may find my audio course The 33 Lessons useful at this time, to help you figure out what you really want, and who you really are.