I found your article while looking for answers to support my 14 year old son. Recently he started saying that he is worried about his 11 year old sister because he thinks she will not live long. He says he cannot 'see' her as an adult and doesn't feel her presence in the future.
I was shocked but tried to remain calm and hear him out. Apparently, he mostly senses this for people he is close to. He says I am going to live longer than my husband. Anyway, he was trying to explain the feeling but could not. He said the thought/sense just comes into his mind when he thinks very hard about someone. Now he says he needs to do something to protect his sister.
I spoke to my husband who is also very spiritual and a reiki healer (although he is not practising). He said our son is probably hyping himself up because he watches too many tv series with this sort of thing.
However we agreed to keep an eye on it and listen whenever he needs to talk.
Strangely, we lost our dog 2 years ago after it was strangled by a python. Our son had been worried the dog would be attacked by a snake. He started taking pictures of the dog in case this happened. When it did happen, we called the kids to tell them but our son said the words before. He broke down and kept saying..'I knew it'
How do we support him. Please help. Regards—Anna
The early teens can be a challenging time for boys. I do believe your son is intuitive; however, his intuitive gifts do not mean that he doesn't have to face the normal growth of any teenage—it's a complicated, sometimes painful to journey these years from 14 to the early 20s.
Thus, even though you may be impressed by his intuitive gifts, it's important to understand that more than anything, he needs you as strong, practical parents.
He needs you to lead him, not him to lead you.
What I have found in working with teens, especially creative and intuitive teens, is that they may be quite gifted intuitively, but may be lacking the emotional experience and depth that allows them to see the big picture. This is not about maturity—it's just the process for all teens.
I think your husband is on the right track: I would begin by limiting TV, internet, games, and really monitoring what your son is looking at. Remember: every screen (phone, internet, pad, all of it) is a portal in which energy and entities can reach us. TV, books like Twilight or other dark zombie, vampire style books, most games for teen boys... all are extreme portals of violence, dark energy, confusion... if your son has a lot of exposure to this, he is definitely being affected.
As a strong parent, you will really help him if you limit this exposure.
I'd start there, and see how his mood relaxes when he is free from these addictive, dark sources. Just because it's mainstream, doesn't mean it's healthy!
I would also suggest that your son has a visit or two with a regular therapist (a teen psychologist, not a psychic, intuitive or energy healer) who is not taken aback by the idea that he has intuitive gifts; it may take a little searching to find the right person. Your son's concern for his sister may stem from deeper worries, that he may need help processing.
It is almost always deeply useful for any teen to see a therapist from time to time—the adolescent years are complex, and there's always something to process.
Can I get a little reading? I live in the Caribbean, on the tiny island of St. Maarten to be exact. I have no clue what to do with my life. It's like I have no purpose and it makes my life so meaningless. I'm a breast cancer survivor and worry a lot about my son who is still pretty young (15). Will he be ok? And can I get a little feedback what to do with my life? I thank you so much and hope you can honor my request.
My name is Carmen and I was born in 1955. — Carmen
It can be hard to live in a place such as the Carribbean where life can be fairly low-key; it can be hard to have external ambition when the environment is so easy.
I would suggest that in order for your son to grow and mature, it would benefit him to spend time in a different locale. This does not have to be now, but as he enters young adult hood.
As for you... I think you need to ask yourself what you would like to create in this life, and then do it.
Don't let the precious gift of this lifetime just pass by.
Only you can decide what brings meaning to your life–and learning to discover this is part of your spiritual path.
The question for you to look at is: why are you in a place of complacency? What makes you not curious, or not willing to risk more, or try more? What parts in your belief system aren't letting you move forward?
You might look at my course, Moving from Stuck to Flow and see if that brings up some answers.
I so wish I could find my place in things..in my work. I want to feel like I am contributing & adding value. Trying to formulate a new business around coaching(visual graphics) but I have been running into boulders.Are things going to finally open up & move? Thanks—Stevi
It feels to me like your vision is not quite clear, and that's why you're having some trouble manifesting what it is that you truly desire. It feels like you're following other people's vision, or the popular vision of how to do things, and you have not quite stepped into your purpose.
Spend some time asking for Divine guidance to help you with this process. Stop leading from mind/ego/personality, and let the Universe to lead you. It's clear you've done a lot of self education, a lot of effort... but it doesn't quite yet feel like you,
I'd suggest my course Manifest Miracles to walk you through the process.
First I would love a group blessing for my aunt Mary. She is widowed, in her 80's, and has lost 4 close family members in the past month...not sure if she can make it through this. Please blessings, blessings to my sweet aunt...Thank you.
Second I would love to see what other guidance I can give to my cousin who has just realized her gift, which came on instantly and VERY powerful. I have created webpages for her and have explained many things to her I discovered on my path. She is scared and she is blocking instead of receiving. How else can I help her?
Thank you Sara—Kellee
Thank you for writing. I have the sense that your aunt is learning and preparing for her own eventual transition as these other family members pass to the other side; it's not about grieving so much for her, as it is about the wonder of what it will be like, when it is her time to go to the other side.
When people have near death experiences, or experience illness where they face mortality, they come to some very interesting conclusions about death: mostly, that it is the body that dies, never the soul.
It feels like your aunt is beginning to reach these same conclusions, and that she has quite a bit more contact with the relatives that passed, than she will ever share with you.
As for your cousin... there is really nothing that you can do that will "help" here with her gifts. This is a path she must walk for herself.
I would suggest that you release the need to help her, and just trust that she must access these abilities and step into her gift in her own time—providing webpages and more is actually slowing her down.
She must do it on her own.
It would be better for you to concentrate on your own intuitive skills and develop those further, than to try to help her at this time! Your own skills are there; you just need to believe you have them, and they will develop further.
As always, lots of great resources with my low-cost self-study courses.
I have been on a spiritual journey for the past two years, during which I have been working on letting go of the past, healing wounds and ultimately achieving a sense of inner peace. It hasn't been easy but I have progressed a great deal,especially with regards working on my life's purpose. My spirituality has become ever -increasingly important and have begun to move down an energy healing path also.
My biggest issue so far has been integrating these higher aspects of myself in daily life, for example remaining focused and confident when faced with trying new things such as continuing with my education and worrying about money (I grew up in a dysfunctional family which had its fair share of financial woes due to irresponsible adult behaviour which is something I haven't quite managed to let go of.)
Like many people I worry a great deal about making the right decisions and stepping into the unknown,change while a necessity can bring up great anxiety!
I suppose overall I'm wondering if I'm going in the right direction and what else I can do to ease the anxiety and maintain a sense of calm when faced with choices?
Many thanks for sharing your light with everyone—Gem, England
Thank you for writing. The questions you bring up are the sign of a conscious person trying to live a conscious life... I commend you for having reached this place of understanding!
Now that you're here: awake and aware in the world, the daily challenge is to lead with the Divine self, or to let the Divine lead... to let the Soul self lead instead of the lower, younger, less evolved human self.
Anxiety comes in as when you sense the tension between the two: you know there is a Divine way, or a way to live with the Divine leading. And yet much of the world seems to be very human indeed... and it's hard to bridge those two realities.
For you, I'd suggest deepening your practice... deepening your connection to your guides, your intuition, and using this as the basis for making all decisions. I suggest my course Opening to Your Guides & Angels.
Whenever you feel yourself getting to that stressed, anxious, buzzy place... just go in and connect with the Divine, in a very intentional way. This might mean you are "entering in" several times a day.
This seems a lot, but it's about what's needed to maintain consciousness in this human world.
So... in a nutshell, for right now... build into your day these moments of direct connection with the Divine. No matter how busy you are, these moments of direct connection will be the most important parts of what you are doing.
After a while, when you are "entering in" to this space three, four times a day... you will begin to notice that your understanding has shifted and deepened even more. At this stage, you will find yourself existing often in joy, bliss and love. You will begin to see the change in your life.
I have lived in my home for over 30 years. It has been my little heaven on earth. Five years ago my husband passed away with no means to keep our home which has led to foreclosure proceedings. I have been struggling with everything in my being to keep our home. Do you think I will be able to keep it, or should I just let it go and move on? Sincerely, Deanna
I am so sorry to hear of all your struggles. This is very hard. Sometimes we choose change, such as choosing to be divorced, leave a home, sell a home relocate and so forth.
But you didn't choose to make changes, and yet changes came anyway.
This is the nature of our human experience: change always happens. We can't prevent it any more than we can prevent growing older every day, or eventually, one day, dying and moving on to the next life.
I sense that in your struggle to save the home, you've put off some grieving. As if, if you can save the home, you will also save the relationship with your husband, and bring him back.
It feels like now is a good time to look at this, perhaps with the help of a counselor, and realize that even if you let the home go, you will still have the relationship with your husband—the departed are always with us.
It feels like it would make your life much less stressful to let the home go and move into a place where you can begin the next stage of our life, with less financial pressure.
None of this is easy. But understand that in letting the house go, you don't let go of your love for your husband. That's always with you.
You might find my book The Four Passages of the Heart a comfort to you at this time.
About 2 years ago I went for an intuitive reading. I had a few minutes left and for fun I asked if she saw any children for me & my husband. Much to my surprise the answer was yes! I have never had a strong desire to have children and figured it just wasn't a spiritual focus for me in this lifetime.
Out of curiosity I decided to get a second intuitive reading from another person. This person told me exactly the same information, gender, time frame ect. I continued to get a few more reading over the next few years and sometimes children would come up even without me asking!
One day my mother in-law even called stating she had a reading and a baby was on the way for us! The miracle is that due to all of these readings my husband and I decided that we did want children and actually began trying.
To end a long story we have never conceived and the time frame has come and gone. We have stopped trying, the process began to be painfully disappointing. I'm 43, my husband is 46. I am so confused why so many people saw children for us?
Do you think any circumstances in my life have altered this path since perhaps it is not in my best interest?
Much love and light—Heather
Baby spirits flit and fly around people all the time. When this happens, it means that a baby spirit is checking out the possibility of coming in—the new soul is making a decision about whether or not to spend some time with you on this earth.
However... just because readers, mothers in laws and so forth, see baby spirits... and even if you and your husband see baby spirits, or start "trying", that doesn't mean a baby spirit will come in.
It feels like you and your husband are not clear on your heart's desire, of if you want a child, or children.. or not.
There is no right decision.. it's a personal decision you may make together, or separately.
And then, when you are very clear on what you, he and you both decide, move forward with your intention.
If you desire children, there are many ways to go forward. If you don't want children, there are ways to do that. If you're not sure... that's a decision too.
The idea is.... know what's in your own heart, your husband's heart, and your "couple" heart.
And move forward with that clarity.
It's your life. Determine for yourself what you want to do.
Thank you for offering to give a free reading to your audience. I would love to call you on your radio show, but I live in the UK so it might prove a little difficult. I hope you can find time to tell me what you make of my query on your blog.
I'm afraid it's not a very original question: I want to know if I'm with the right man or not.
Briefly, we have been together over 12 years, and have two children together. Last year I was very unhappy, and developed feelings for someone else. I realise now that that was a distraction / escape / fantasy from sorting out my real life relationship, and I'm no longer in contact with the other person. My partner and I split up, got back together, and have probably talked more in the last few months than we have done in years.
I'm very aware of what a good person my partner is, of all his fantastic qualities, and of how many other people would love to have what I have. However, I can't shake the nagging feeling that I'm not with my "soulmate". I am halfway through your "Manifest Miracles " course, and in the "Affirm with Heart" meditation this thought came through very strongly for me. My friends tell me to think back to when we first fell in love - but for me that never happened. I was in my twenties, not looking for anything serious, we met, had good times together ... and here we are now. I never thought "this is the one for me". If I'm honest I've always felt that there has been something missing on a deeper level.
However, I'm also aware that we have a good, stable, functioning relationship, and we are bringing up two children together. Day-to-day, it works!
So my question is: is wanting to experience a deep, soulmate connection with someone just a teenage fantasy I need to let go of? Am I simply having a mid-life crisis, and need to get real and grow up? I don't want to sacrifice my children's happiness for my own; but I don't want to spend the rest of my life wondering "what if.....?".
Any insights into my situation would be really welcome right now....Thanks—Lena
Thank you for writing. I'd like to suggest that you ARE having what we used to call a mid-life crisis... and what we might now call the Getting Ready to Expand stage.
It's pretty common to enter this stage in the late thirties and early 40s... when you're deeply in marriage/family/domestic life, and often so very busy that life seems to be just one chore after another.
It's very easy to lose romance and feelings of love in your marriage, at this time.
That's when this creeping feeling of "I need my soul mate" tends to show up, and people start having affairs and getting divorced and so on.... again, very common in this state or passage of life, for both women and men.
So.. recognize you're in this passage... that's the first thing.
Next, you're going to want to do a lot of self exploration that has nothing to do with your husband—you're going to want to explore who YOU are outside of wife and mom, what YOU want to accomplish in your life. Often, this is where the real issue is.
This might take a year. It might take two years. It might take three. This process of discernment... of taking the focus of "the relationship is boring" or "my husband isn't my soul mate" can be exactly what you need when a marriage is basically solid, but perhaps lacking emotional depth.
I'd suggest my course Manifest Miracles to help you know what your heart really wants.
My name is Raymond from Indonesia. I have suffered many hard problems like depression and anxious problem. Many people insult me and look down to me. I always fail to achieve something and become low-esteem for myself. I wish to become actor and recover from this fail. Many people says this is impossible but i'm still in faith of God. Please show me, can i achieve my hopes and wishes? Thank you Sara. —Raymond
You did not say how old you are, but I have the sense that you are in the stage of younger adulthood, where you are still learning how you are, and what your life's path is.
It's good to walk the path of being actor, and to follow your dreams. I encourage you to keep going!
I believe that you will be able to create a life where you work in your chosen field; however, you may find yourself not as an actor, but doing some of the other amazing jobs that make acting possible. Allow yourself to open to that additional possibility—that you will love working in a position that is in the acting field, but may (or may not) be actual acting.
The other part of this, is that is is absolutely possible to shift your feelings of low self worth, let go of those Misbeliefs, and access the part of your personality that is Divine, calm, confident and connected—and to begin to live from this part of your being, your true self. Make this your priority!
Take a listen to my FREE podcasts; they will help.
Hi Sara! I'm in a complicated situation with my love life. I am so sure this man is supposed to be the one I am supposed to be with but it's complicated... Very complicated! I keep getting mixed signals and not sure how to proceed... Any spirit advice would be much appreciated!
Much Love and light—Jenn
Thank you for writing. There are many times we have karmic crossings with others who are our soul mates. However... just because a person is your soul mate, does not mean you will go forward with this person in our lives.
Love that works, sustains and grows isn't complicated.
Love that works, sustains and grows is really simple. It feels like safety, expansion, you being your true self, feeling relaxed.
It feels like home.
You may be a soul mate with this man... but it does not feel that it is a relationship that will go forward. Complication, mixed signals... and above all, not being available or not being emotionally available are all signs that this is not the love that you will go forward with.
Love that goes forward is simple, relaxed, easy.
I hope you're well! We emailed a while ago when I leased a little house that I was nervous about and I'm happy to say it's been lovely. I've been working through two of your courses on Daily OM - A Year of Spiritual Awakening and Become a Spiritual Psychic in 28 Days. I've also started learning about crystals - fun and pretty!
So here's what's happening. Whenever I read, hear about or see people experiencing pain, I have this uncomfortably strong sensation - kind of a tingling and a super-strong feeling of empathy. I've resolved this by not reading or watching materials that have violence, etc but even hearing friends & family describe painful experiences causes this.
Is this some sort of spiritual/empathic phase? Is there anything to be done about it? Best to you—Jana
The gift of an empathic heart is one of the most beautiful gifts a person can have. However, until you know how to work with it correctly, it can cause some distress and even pain to you.
I do think it is important to limit viewing or experiencing reading materials, movies, etc that are violent or low vibration. Remember: everything is a portal. Books, movies, internet, even phones are all portals to other energetic dimensions; understand and respect this.
Also remember, whatever you see or put in your mind and heart is the same as experiencing this. There is a part in The 33 Lessons that talks about this specifically. Limiting exposure to darkness is one way to guard your heart.
But there is another way, that requires that you take off all heart's armor, and simply allow yourself to feel it all, and holding state of compassion (for the other, for yourself) in your heart. Blasting forth into full compassion, and allow this vibration.... compassion instead of pain... to be how you experience another's pain.
There is a lot of information in my book The Four Passages of the Heart.
Keep opening. Don't worry about guarding or shielding or protecting... just open up from pain into compassion into connection into love.
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